• Question: how do i know if i love someone ?

    Asked by jack a boom to Sam, Rose, Maggi, Kirsty, Ben on 15 Jun 2017.
    • Photo: Kirsty Miller

      Kirsty Miller answered on 15 Jun 2017:

      Hi 🙂 Wow, that’s quite a question! I think if you do then you’ll know it! At the risk of sounding like a movie, ‘when you know, you know’! If you’re questioning it then you probably don’t!

    • Photo: Rose Turner

      Rose Turner answered on 15 Jun 2017:

      Love is a funny old thing isn’t it! There’s an early infatuation stage where you can’t think of much apart from the person you love, and then there’s the bit where you become a bit more comfortable, but start to feel very attached to them. These two experiences feel quite different, and yet we often characterise them both as ‘love’. So, in a way, you’re in love when you think you’re in love (because it’s subjective). It won’t always feel the same either, and one day you might think, wow, the way I felt about person A was NOTHING compared to how I feel about person B!! I think a good way of thinking about it is considering whether you feel like you want good things for that person. Do you feel like you’re on their ‘team’ and do you want them to be happy? If yes, and that’s paired with a feeling of wanting to be around them (more than other friends) then I think that could well be something I’d call love <3 😀

    • Photo: Sam Carr

      Sam Carr answered on 18 Jun 2017:

      Well, I don’t think science has the answer to everything. I think I’ve learned more about love from art – from poetry, from artwork, from film. I think love is something you “feel” and as Kirsty says below, it’s something people just “know.” I guess it’s something to do with the feelings related to a deep spiritual, psychological, or physical connection to someone – and we sort of just “feel” that. You know because you know.

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